It's that time of year again, when the air is charged with love, and the shops are filled with chocolates, flowers, hearts and other clichés! Valentine's Day means different things to different people. While for some it's a day for mushy expressions of love for a significant other, for others it's an opportunity to show all their loved ones how much they care. Add a special Indian touch to the festival of love this year!
There are a lot of stories about why Valentine's Day is celebrated on February 14. Some say it originated in a Roman pagan feast called Lupercalia when young men drew lots to choose their partners for the year. Others say the day is celebrated in memory of Saint Valentine. While history associates at least three Christian martyrs, all of them named Valentine, with February 14, most people dedicate the day to the priest who served in Rome during the 3rd century.
Saint Valentine is believed to have faithfully spread the message of God in spite of strict orders by Emperor Claudius II that only Caesar was to be worshipped. Perhaps the stress on love came about because Valentine continued to secretly conduct weddings in his Church, despite the emperor's decree banning all engagements and weddings in order to ensure his soldiers' dedication to war. It is said that Valentine, while imprisoned by Claudius, gave eyesight to the jailer's blind daughter through his prayers, and before being executed, he sent her a letter signed 'From your Valentine' - the World is still divided on whether this was a love letter or one extolling the praise of God.
Arguments about its origin are no longer paramount; it is the spirit of the festival that matters, and that spirit has caught on pretty fast world over. A decade or so ago Valentine's Day was not really celebrated in India except by a very small minority. Today it has caught the fancy of an entire new generation. Cynics view the brouhaha surrounding Valentine's Day in India as an unnecessary western influence, but for many it is merely a day to celebrate the universal concept of love.
For those of you who want to spend a special evening with a loved one, we suggest you take a break from the usual heart-shaped box of candy, bouquet of red roses, and candlelight dinner at an expensive restaurant routine, and look at a more personalised celebration.
Here are some suggestions for a magical evening at home...
* Set the mood with low lights and diyas instead of the ubiquitous candles. Light some incense sticks, and string some flowers across the room.
* Plan a special home cooked meal, even if you've never cooked before! Be adventurous - try your hand at some really simple recipes; the thought will definitely be appreciated.
* Welcome your beloved with a bunch of pretty flowers. Avoid the stereotype of red roses unless all you want to say is a simple "I love you".
* How about a special gift - something without hearts perhaps? A beautiful handmade greeting card or a diary made out of recycled paper? Maybe a special book or collection of music. Remember to write a few words expressing your deepest feelings.
* Arrange to borrow a couple of romantic movies that both of you will enjoy. If you are married, maybe you can rekindle the magic by watching your wedding photographs and videos!
It's for you to decide how to create an out of the ordinary experience that you both will remember for years. Ultimately, how perfect the evening will be depends on how well you know and understand your better half. Remember, the day is about the spirit of love and caring, and making it last. Take the time and effort to enjoy it.
The first thing you'll need to do is decide exactly what you wish to achieve as far as the ambience is concerned. Here are a few ways that you can go about getting that 'right feel':
Buy fresh rose bouquets and place them everywhere. Most florists sell roses at a reasonable price.
*Candlelight is one of the most popular symbols of romance. Go to a local craft store and stock up on red candles and candlestick holders. You can also Burn incense or scented aromatherapy candles.
*Decorate your dinner table with red satin ribbons and fake yet pretty pearls to have that classy look without going overboard on the budget.
*Balloons are a great way to say, "I love you." Buy a bunch of heart shaped red balloons and put them all over the place.
*Play your partner's favourite romantic music to create that overall effect.